You Would Think

Am I Codependent?

A Biblical Self-Assessment

Most codependent people don't wake up intending to lose themselves trying to manage everyone else's emotions. They simply think they're being loving. This guide is designed to help you notice patterns — not diagnose you.

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Responsibility

I feel responsible for fixing other people's problems.

I feel responsible for fixing other people's problems.

I struggle watching someone experience consequences.

I struggle watching someone experience consequences.

I feel guilty saying no.

I feel guilty saying no.

I rescue people before they ask.

I rescue people before they ask.

Healthy people carry their responsibilities. Codependent people often carry everyone else's.

Identity

My value depends on being needed.

My value depends on being needed.

I need approval to feel okay.

I need approval to feel okay.

I feel anxious when someone is upset with me.

I feel anxious when someone is upset with me.

If your identity depends on being needed, you may unintentionally need people to have problems.

Control

I spend a lot of time thinking about how someone else should change.

I spend a lot of time thinking about how someone else should change.

I try to prevent people from making mistakes.

I try to prevent people from making mistakes.

I become frustrated when people don't take my advice.

I become frustrated when people don't take my advice.

Control often disguises itself as concern.

Boundaries

I say yes when I want to say no.

I say yes when I want to say no.

I resent people after agreeing to help them.

I resent people after agreeing to help them.

I apologize for having needs.

I apologize for having needs.

Resentment is often evidence that a boundary should have existed.

Fear

I avoid disappointing people.

I avoid disappointing people.

I fear conflict.

I fear conflict.

I walk on eggshells.

I walk on eggshells.

Many codependent behaviors are simply fear wearing the mask of love.

Spiritual Confusion

I confuse forgiveness with trust.

I confuse forgiveness with trust.

I think saying no is unloving.

I think saying no is unloving.

I confuse compassion with enabling.

I confuse compassion with enabling.

Jesus loved perfectly—and He still said no.

Emotional Health

I neglect my own spiritual life while helping others.

I neglect my own spiritual life while helping others.

I rarely ask what I need.

I rarely ask what I need.

I don't know how to sit with discomfort.

I don't know how to sit with discomfort.

Codependency often disconnects us from ourselves.

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